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Appearances Can Be Deceitful

I was reading “Don’t Let Facebook Make You Feel Miserable” on http://www.timesofindia.com today.

Was thinking how true the research is! Also read few comments below, which made the research look more genuine.

At once I could associate the report with few people around me and few friends. I have found many people in my circle who are hooked to the social networking site round the clock, trying to prove themselves every moment…and their activities are so obvious.

They take it as a social responsibility to tell the world what they have done and are still doing, as if the world will come to an end if they don’t tell where they are and how they are, or as if the heaven will fall on us if they don’t share their tiny tit-bits on the web…!!! Does anybody really care about what we do, how we do, where we do and why we do? This generation seems to be jobless? Don’t we have other things in life? Or have we become so much self-centered that we can’t think beyond ourselves?

It’s not only this research, but if we look around us we will find this article to be truly close to what we see around us everyday and everywhere in this era of social networking. If you are in any of the so called social network sites busy updating about yourself every minute then you should know that you belong to the ‘world of‘virtual living beings’.

This is the place where most of the times you will find people trying to see the reflection of their life on others to gain their confidence and then their sympathy, forcing others to believe what they are not. At times this is other way round; few people force themselves to believe what others are not.

The reason for this is they compare themselves with the world and the people around who are either their real life friends or acquaintance or their virtual friends and acquaintances. Actually they suffer from either inferiority complex or superiority complex that makes them log into the virtual world for self advertisement for a virtual pleasure. The addiction is so much that they start copying and end up overdoing everything without trying to understand the reality beneath. That is the moment they feel “I am above all” – the factor that gives a little high and a temporary pleasure to their senses.

The happiness to them is a set of fixed formulas, which they see on the social networking sites and they are hell bent to execute everything offered to them on these sites. There is no individuality, no personality, no values and no sentiments, and if one has all these and any of these then that person is classified as “the weird one”.

We try to know people and make friends through these sites and start believing what the so called friends wish to show us. Is friendship so cheaply available or has the meaning of the word ‘friendship’ changed? Our blind addiction to these friend –vending-machines becomes the reason that at times we become friends to people who never actually exists or who exists only in the virtual world.

This is my observation. People try to hide themselves behind these ‘POJECTION PLATFORMS’’ (Social Networking Sites) to tell the world they are happy, successful and living. I would also like to call these – ‘SELF DISPLAY COUNTERS’. These platforms give them momentary pleasure. I believe if something gives someone happiness and momentary pleasure then why do we bother…may be these are the only tools of happiness in their lives and may be few are surviving on these!

However, it is true that self belief is very important and belief in one’s culture, tradition, lifestyle and family values is as important, else people keep hopping from one culture to another and one lifestyle to another in search of the bird called happiness and success, but they are never able to find happiness, may be they are successful in life on their own terms, but they are rarely content. I strongly believe our base should be strong enough to withstand the platforms that seems determined to makes us believe what we are not, and forget what we are, and in the rat race loose our identity. By the time people realizes it, half of the damage is done. The present generation is spending most of their life in the virtual world that has led many to depression, and many more are on their way to get enrolled in the ‘depression club’.

So it is always important to remain what one is and not try to become what others are. By comparing ourselves with others, we only hurt ourselves. People who look happy may have their own problems, which we may not know; similarly people whom we find solemn, may be busy with some serious issues. We should not take people by their appearances, because beneath every face there is a character, which is hidden from others. It is rightly said, “all that glitters is not gold” and we have also heard about this phrase, “Appearance can be deceitful”

To put this in Dr. Seuss quotes, “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”

FB or any other social networking sites are good if used in a very constructive manner. In fact very profitable for people with causes and genuine reason other than self proclamation. Even helpful in finding long lost friends. Even I have found many of my lost friends. The reason these sites deserves appreciation.

Well said by American Writer and Cartoonist, Dr. Seuss, “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”


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One Response

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